很多人說《浮生路》是一個剛強女人配一個窩囊男人的悲劇。坦白說,我不覺得,一點也不覺得。
我反而覺得,她是一個很需要安全感,很脆弱,保護及反抗意識特強的女人。因此也非常痛恨配偶不了解自己,害怕伴侶闖入自己的心,傷害自己的感情和摧毀自己的夢想。
片中有些控訴很有意思,雖然我的記憶可能跟真實很有出入:
(會看此片的請不要再看下去)
「為什麼你不對我說,讓我們到巴黎把孩子生下來?」當女人發現懷孕成為丈夫不去巴黎的藉口時這樣說。
「我一直以為我們是同一樣的人,但突然發覺他不是這樣想,我覺得被背叛。這些年來的希冀,讓我維持下去的信念都崩潰了。」女角在酒吧裡跟男友人茫然地說。(這句的字眼我特別不肯定,但意思大概如此。)
這其實是一個依附性很強的人,對自己所做的,對自己的人生失望。像睡公主一樣,等待白馬王子披荊斬棘,把你沉睡中的真我喚醒,帶你走出困局,帶你闖出一片美好新世界... 然而,這差不多是註定失望的。
真正剛愎自用的人,才不會這樣的傷感,這樣的失望,這樣的竭斯底里。
片中末後早餐一幕非常動人,溫柔與暴烈成強烈對比,讓人物都立體起來。美麗而脆弱如幻像,像一個幸福玻璃球,大家戰戰競競,唯恐稍一著力,便弄破弄碎。
最近看了Dr. Gary Smalley的I Promise,以安全感的角度去看婚姻。中心思想是不錯的,雖然寫得頗為鬆散。
6 comments:
I haven't watched it, but my colleague did and she wasn't very impressed (she's single and in mid-twenties), her comment was " I don't understand why they had to make their lives so difficult, if she's not happy, she should just up and leave and find her own happiness"...
I believe it has a lot to do with expectations we have in marriage, so many people go into marriage, thinking it will be the beginning of something special for themselves.. and I suspect you're right, she sounds like she's someone who loves to rely on her husband, and perhaps unfairly have set her own ideals onto him...
絕對明白你同事,我很相信這不是很多人會喜歡的片子。尤其你同事咁後生,唉...真係「大地在我腳下」,點會諗咁多?
我都相信好多人會認為佢地好多餘。
但我覺得一切好真實,好深刻。
Don't we all have our faith or even stubbornness on sth we believe? Especially when it comes to love and marriage. It's not easy to just walk away. We should not, should we?
聽你講完,我諗我不敢看這套片子了.
無咁沉重,可能因為時代唔同,有少少疏離感。
J,我不能再同意了,其實好多野都係,無得就咁walk away。
一個人的煩惱,自然係因為事情「難以抉擇/難以行動」,簡單地一句:轉工囉,離婚囉,咪理囉,分手囉... 真係好多餘。跟「何不食肉靡」一樣,問題咪就係因為不能決定到/做得出。
Exactly... walking away hardly solve any problem. You give up on Husband A, when you meet Husband B, you still face the same problems - cos the problems are about yourself...
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